I still talk to my exes.
Last week, I shared the story of when I got fired. What might interest you is that I was in contact with my former boss until mid last year before I decided to cut ties with him.
The same thing applies to the media house. I worked as a freelance graphics designer before I left for Kaduna back in 2016.
I still chat with all my exes as well. This is in spite of the fact that they are the ones doing the heart breaking. A couple of them still ask for help once a while and I do the little I can if I have the capacity.
I’ve heard people say being in contact with one’s former lover is not good. Well, that’s relative.
I remember the girlfriend I was with back in 2015 had a fight with me because I have my ex’s number on my phone. For her, there’s no reason why I should still be in contact with her.
The girl in question later ended the relationship on another ground and guess what, we still talk and I do drop by at her place whenever I’m in town.
For me, I just prefer to maintain bridges than burn them. There’s this relationship that ended and the other person asked that I shouldn’t be a stranger but the person was the first to make the “stranger’s move”.
If we are ending a relationship and you want us to be in contact, that’s perfect. And if you don’t, awesome.
Some relationships are going to end. And there’s also the part that we are going to become total strangers to our best friends, lovers, and even siblings.
We can just keep the bridges we can afford to keep while burning the ones that are eating into our peace.
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My first comment!!! Well here it goes: I’m all for not burning bridges with exes, because really, if the relationship didn’t end in a mess, why not?
But on the hand, there are some relationships that end in so much of a mess that in order to keep your sanity and other person’s, you have to cut ties with them completely. Some memories are simply too painful to keep rehashing, even after a long time.
So I say don’t burn bridges but if you have to, light that muthafucka up and don’t look back!!!
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Yeah, T commented.
About sanity. Absolutely, if it’s going to affect my sanity, I’m demolishing and setting the bridge on fire.
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About burning bridges. For a great part of my life, I always try to keep a bridge but it was emotionally draining. I would literally still be calling up people who refused to pick my call. Dumb move, I know right. So let’s say my current stance to burn bridges is as a result of my past experience.
Like I said, I will try to change but for now, once we are through, hunney, we are THROUGH and get this, I don’t care who burnt the bridge…I just simply move on and out of your life forever!!!
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Fair point but I don’t go as far as calling people that refuse to pick my call. For me, that’s extreme.
If it’s going to be emotionally draining, I’d set the bridge in fire. No time
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